Start the Day and Stay Aligned with Happiness

Here’s a happiness story that’s hard not to love! (I found the essence of this story on piece of paper pinned to a bulletin board of an empty office while I was recently on an assignment. It was not attributed to anyone. Maybe it was a personal story of someone like you or me who had an amazing friend—like Michael.)


Michael was the kind of guy who was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. And if asked how he was doing Michael would reply, “If I were any better I would be twins!” “How do you do it—staying happy all the time?” someone would ask. Michael’s reply was “Each morning I wake up and say to myself~ you have two choices today, Michael. You can choose to be in a good mood, or you can choose to be a victim of circumstances. I choose to be in a good mood. And if something bad happens, I choose to learn from it and stay on the positive side of life.”


One day Michael was involved in a serious accident, having fallen 60 feet from a communications tower. When the paramedics wheeled him into the hospital he saw fear on the doctor’s faces, and figured they thought he was as good as dead. That’s when Michael decided he needed to take action. When a big burly nurse started shouting questions at him and asked if he was allergic to anything, “Yes!” he replied. The docs and nurses stopped working as they waited for his answer. After a big breath, Michael yelled, “Gravity!”  Over their laughter he told them, “I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead!”


After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Michael was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back. Six months later a friend visited and asked him how he was doing. His reply, “If I were any better I’d be twins!”


Michael was a man who made choices. He was unconditionally upbeat and positive regardless of the circumstance. What a great example to follow!



For Many of Us, Happiness Requires Focus to Stay in Alignment 


If you want to feel happy most of the time, it’s a good idea to stay aligned with happiness by doing or thinking about those things that will sustain being happy. It’s about doing what supports you, and avoid doing those things that work to take you off track. In that regard, check out these Do’s and Don’ts below for staying in alignment with happiness.



  • Aspire to be ‘Ordinary’  (what a relief that will be!)
  • Appreciate goodness all around you
  • Tell the truth/share your story
  • Look for goodness & dignity in others
  • Trust in the Future in order to be present, Now
  • Do your best — and that’s good enough!
  • Contribute your gifts to those in need
  • Let goodness flow in and through you
  • Stay true to yourself
  • Take some risks (and enjoy the adventure!)
  • Learn your lessons and adjust your course
  • Love yourself unconditionally
  • Reduce the focus on just pleasing yourself
  • Ask if you can be of service, and lend a hand to others in need
  • Enjoy each moment regardless of outer circumstances
  • Persist in the direction of fully expressing your Soul Purpose
  • Have Faith that Life is holding you in absolute safety
  • Create from inner alignment when feeling good


  • Try to change circumstances to feel better (first let the feeling go)
  • Try to be Perfect (avoid angst, effort, striving)
  • Judge things, yourself, or others as not good enough
  • Hedge or hide out
  • Separate yourself from others
  • Worry about the future or reminisce about the past mistakes
  • “Don’t let perfection stand in the way of the good!” — Bill Clinton
  • Withhold your contribution from others
  • Accumulate only from self interest
  • Do what others want for you or how they think you ought to be
  • Always play it safe
  • Berate or find fault with yourself for making mistakes
  • Give up when things get tough or conditions don’t match your expectations
  • Try to change outer conditions in order to be happy
  • Worry that something bad is just around the corner and you’d better keep up your guard


My Personal Story


For many years I was not aware that I had the authority to choose my thoughts. It often felt like I was a victim of circumstances, and my only option was to just react to whatever outer experiences were occurring. It was as though my happiness was based on having “good  luck” of being in the right place at the right time, and that circumstances, over which I had no control, dictated whether I was happy or not.


In becoming somewhat more awakened, however, I have discovered a greater truth: we create our experience from our thoughts and feelings all the time.And in order to consciously create the life experience we desire, we need to choose our orientation to how we want life to show up. As Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, your right.” Since thoughts create our reality, it’s wise to choose the good ones!


I have found that the best way to get and stay in alignment is to begin the day in meditation — or attunement to Source and Goodness, or Peace, Love and Joy flowing through me. It’s important for me to get in alignment right off the bat! And throughout the day I try to monitor and choose my thoughts that reflect the way I want to experience life. And one important key I’ve learned is this: if you are finding it hard work to stay in alignment, try easing up. Goodness flows with ease!

About Jim

Jim’s innovative and influential style of coaching and facilitation stems from over 15 years of Management experience in Human Resource and Organization Development. He has written two books, and has coached others in the area of Personal Development for the past 20 years.